Am I Laman and Lemuel?

Who's your Laman and Lemuel? You know, the friend, relative, or coworker who makes you want to rip your face off because every small affliction, inconvenience, difference of opinion is a completely unsolvable tragedy and any discomfort they feel is probably not just going to end their lives but also your favorite animal's, the anteater, at the zoo. And you really love that anteater. 
Or are you the Laman and the Lemuel? Am I? I confess, I've been the "woe is me gal" before. Not a happy place.
I love this quote by Elder Holland, "I have often thought that Nephi's being bound with cords and beaten by rods must have been more tolerable to him than listening to Laman and Lemuel's constant murmuring. Surely, he must have said at least once, 'Hit me one more time. I can still hear you.' Yes, life has its problems, and yes, there are negative things to face, but please accept one of Elder Holland's maxims for living - no misfortune is so bad that whining about it won't make it worse."
Why do you think Laman and Lemuel murmured? Why were the six sons of Lehi, all raised by the same parents, so varying in attitude? Maybe it was a premortal disposition? 
A possible three explanations stood out to me this week while I was studying my scriptures, the first being the condition of the heart. I have heard it said that an open mind can only get you so far in the things of God, what is required is an open heart. In 1 Nephi 2:16-19 the word heart is mentioned three times. Nephi's heart is described as being "softened" and in verse 19 the Lords says to him, "Blessed art thou, Nephi, because of they faith, for thou has sought me diligently, with lowliness of heart." Nephi had cried unto the Lord in prayer desiring to know if the words his father, Lehi, had spoken were true. His heart was then softened when confirmed by the Lord that they were. Nephi raced off to testify of his enlightening experience to his three older brothers. Sam immediately believed him but Laman and Lemuel did not because of the "hardness of their hearts". The condition of Laman and Lemuel's hearts disallowed them from recognizing truth; pushing out and rejecting all manifestations of the Holy Spirit. In turn, their hearts responded gleefully to worldly comforts  which resulted in regular complaining when those comforts and desires weren't met.
Second, the list making. I've caught myself in this trap before. Usually my unfortunate murmuring, mental list looks somethings like this:
"This house is trashed and I just cleaned it. Nobody's noticed to take out the garbage, cupboards are left wide open, I've tripped over The Beloved's 12 different pairs of shoes 57 times, do they have to get a new cup out every time they get a drink, why has everyone forgotten what a clothes hamper is - even though I remind them everyday" and so on and so forth. You can imagine coming into contact with this Mama, after undergoing my negative list making session, it can make people run in fear and lends an eager mouthful of my complaining to anyone willing to listen.
Laman and Lemuel make a list in 1 Nephi 2: 11. They were fed up with their father and felt justified in murmuring for the following reason, "he was a visionary man, had led them out of the land of Jerusalem, to leave the land of their inheritance, and their good things, to perish in the wilderness. And this they said he had done because of the foolish imaginations of his heart."  Negative list making leads to useless anger, distractions from what the Lord desires to teach you, and zero productivity  in improving one's situation. You are left stuck, complaining, and making other people worry about their favorite zoo animal. 
Third, is value. Laman and Lemuel valued very different things than Nephi. The two eldest brothers valued their gold, silver, and all of their precious things. We know they were a very wealthy family for when Laban saw their property he thought, "it was exceedingly great, he did lust after it...." (1 Nephi 3: 25).  Laman and Lemuel valued the things of the world and the thought of giving up their riches and comforts was almost more than they could bear. How could they resist offering a small complaint here and there when what they valued was being thrown out the door?  Even after seeing an angel and being witness to numerous things of the spirit, they still chose the world and therefore adopted its attributes - greed, laziness, pleasing man, contention, selfishness, back biting, etc.  
Nephi found the greatest value in pleasing the Lord. Doing what was right in His eyes. His determination in doing so is apparent in 1 Nephi 3:7, "I will go and do the things which the Lord hath commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men, save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them." The attributes of grandness in Nephi are over flowing from what he values most. He has faith, hope, patience, love, good works, etc. He doesn't murmur because he can't begin to want to. What he values won't allow it.  
So, what do I value? What is the condition of my heart and what lists am I making in my head? This is my ongoing self evaluation for the week or more honestly, my life.
I hope to one day be known as someone who was as faithful and diligent as Nephi. I bet he would have been a very pleasant friend. I truly value the gospel and following Christ. It's obvious the next attribute I need to develop is patience and long suffering so I'll stop desiring to rip my face off when I'm surrounded by my own Laman and Lemuel's. But I don't want to complain about that.... :)