The Communication Tool -

FOR A STRONG MARRIAGE -

This past weekend I discovered the benefits of having a full water gun nearby.

For those of you who don't know The Beloved very well he may come across as shy or a man who keeps to himself. FYI: This is a lie that he portrays only at social gatherings or in other various large group settings.

The sad truth is - The Beloved has been cursed with a lack of knowing how to be serious the majority of the time. He is the KING, let me say it again, the KING of teasing, and of making up unharmful stories, out of the blue, that are completely untrue.

Example, up until the day we were addressing our wedding announcements I thought his mother's maiden name was Jones.

It's not.

Why did I think it was Jones?

Well, typically when you ask a person what their middle name is and they say Jones, you believe it. And then when they go on to say that they were named this because it is their mother's maiden name, you say okay.

Never say okay.

Question everything perfect and normal coming out of The Beloved's mouth. :)

Let's just say his middle name is definitely not Jones and he wasn't even named after his mother.

He thought I knew he was kidding...

because people kid about that?

With every marriage you have to learn how your spouse communicates. It is the key to avoiding contention and having a strong partnership.

I never knew communicating with my spouse would require accessories.

But, sometimes -

a girl has to do what a girl has to do.

Here's how it plays out:

Me: Beloved, what do you want to do today?

Beloved: I don't believe in doing things.

(I pull the trigger on water gun)

Me: Do you want to go hiking?

Beloved: I don't believe in hiking.

(I shoot him with water gun)

Beloved: Yes, I would love to go hiking. 

Me: What time should we leave?

Beloved: Does it require leaving?

(I shoot him with water gun)

Beloved: I'll be ready in 30minutes.

So,

if you see a man or woman walking around with a loaded water gun - try to immediately push the thought aside that they may be a little crazy. What you are really witnessing is simply an individual who is trying to successfully communicate in their marriage - and that is a beautiful thing.

I love you honey. You now have permission to blog about me.

Wait,

that's entirely not true.

But, I promise I have never lied to you about my middle name. And that says a lot - because I hear it happens to people all the time :).

It's the strangest thing.

***The Beloved isn't a liar per say. But once he gets to know you... joking about everything is fair game. You've been warned.  I suggest you purchase a water gun. ***